It’s been a rough week in the daycare world for all of us…and NOT just because of the pancakes. I swear. Three of the last four days, Boopsie has been in a foul, sad mood when we picked her up… a “hot mess,” if you will.
Yesterday, Daddy-o brought Boopsie home after another rough day. Miss C (daycare provider) said that she didn’t think anything was wrong with Boopsie, but her personality is just developing. What? My kid comes home a whining, crying mess and you’re trying to tell me that’s just her personality developing? Six weeks after you told us she was the happiest baby you’ve had in 25 years of daycare?
Between that and learning that, in addition to pancakes, Boopsie has had a bunch of other food (including cheese, WTF??) that we didn’t know about, I’m beginning to question our choice of day cares and wondering if we need to look elsewhere.
God, that sounds exhausting. So, in my usual, non-anal, non-type-A way, I’ve started a table of observations/questions and explanations/answers. (Did you get my sarcasm?)
|Observations/Concerns||Possible, Rational Explanations|
|In the past few weeks, Boopsie has been frequently coming home from day care very exhausted and unhappy. Highly disconcerting. She doesn’t usually end up exhausted and unhappy after a day with us.||After a long day of work, I am tired and (sometimes) unhappy, too. It could be a growth/development issue.|
|Boopsie keeps going on “drinking strikes” at day care.||This one is a stumper. Maybe other babies, who are thrilled with their day care and providers do the same thing?|
|When I pick Boopsie up, she’s never engaged with a toy, book or other object. (Though sometimes she is in the Johnny Jumper.)||Miss C is making it easier for parents to get in, get their kids, and get out.|
|Miss C frequently sounds exasperated with the other (older) kids, and scolds them for not following her instructions.||Miss C values good behavior and teaches them manners and what good behavior is. If I had a bunch of toddlers around, wouldn’t I scold them, too?|
|I never seen any “curriculum”-type activities going on with the older .||I’m there five minutes, twice a day.|
|I sent Boopsie with 10 diapers today and she came home with 7. (8+ hours)||Maybe Miss C has a stash? (Entirely possible.)|
|I’m not getting all the information I would like to have about when she’s sleeping (and for how long), what she’s eating, and what she’s doing during the day.||Maybe I’m asking too much? Perhaps we’d be more comfortable in a center?|
It’s late. I’m wiped. These are the things (good and bad and complicated) I’m thinking as I go to bed:
- Boopsie does not cry when we drop her off, which tells me (I hope) that nothing is really wrong.
- We’re not talking about safety here, just style and ideals. What do we want for her, now and in the future?
- Miss C has been doing this for over 20 years and has never had a complaint… is the problem here with me and what I want and expect? Am I asking too much?
- I’m having a hard time trusting my intuition. My instinct is saying that I want a more nurturing, educational environment where I know more about what’s going on (eating, sleeping, activities). But I’m second-guessing that big-time. Am I just being an overprotective spazz?
What do YOU think?
Did I mention I’m tired?